Have been thinking about yesterday's post.
I've been reading (and enjoying)a lot of quite strongly opinionated blogs of late. I've also been listening to a few friends who are getting a hard time from people for choosing to do things outside the mainstream's idea of normal. I think both those things had me all riled up that there is this belief only one way to do things-and I presented an equally biased idea of another "only way to do things".
This post is not an apology for my beliefs in the school system, the hospital system or how I think women and children are expected to act. I still have those beliefs.
But I do not think that my way of thinking is the absolute right way either. I actually think that putting your faith in one way of thinking-be it mainstream or alternative can be equally as dangerous. Real power comes from knowing that you have a choice.
Knowing that you can research your options fully and use your own intuition to make those choices for yourself and your children is power. We are often not given the full story or all the information that there is available. We often struggle through with something that we are not comfortable with because we feel we need to to conform to some ideal. This might be a hospital birth you are not comfortable with-or it might be breastfeeding your 3 year old when you hate it.
I truly believe that there is NO one right way.
I have made choices that probably make a lot of people's eyes roll. I had ultrasounds with every pregnancy-even my homebirths. Harper has a dummy. We indulge in horrid fast food from the Mcempire from time to time. I am also the only one out of a close circle of friends who's kids don't do school. But I don't feel judged-so who am I to pass judgment on other people's choices?
I think my real peeve comes from people with no information criticizing a choice they know nothing about. Knowledge is power. I researched my choices and am very comfortable with the decisions I have made for myself and my family. I apologize for assuming that others are not in the same boat.